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一 | 墨士廉与家人合照。左起：大舅、外公丁来安、外婆陈亚妹、墨士廉、母亲丁慧卿、父亲Valentin Maeder。 While extensive, international negotiations have now led to the release of four hostages captured by Hamas, scores of foreign nationals in Gaza, including as many as 600 Americans, are still being blocked by the U.S.-designated terrorist group from crossing into Egypt, according to Biden administration officials."To date, at least, Hamas has blocked them from leaving, showing once again its total disregard for civilians of any kind who are stuck in Gaza," Secretary of State Antony Blinken said in a televised interview Sunday.On Monday, State Department spokesman Matthew Miller clarified that the U.S. now assessed that after weeks of negotiations with Egypt and Israel aimed at securing safe passage for the Americans, only Hamas stood in the way."We do believe that Egypt is ready to process American citizens if they can make it to Egyptian authorities. Hamas just has to stop blocking their exit," Miller said.Miller also said that while U.S. officials were not in direct communication with Hamas, they have been urging Hamas to step aside in messages sent through "a number of partners."The Biden administration has been working since soon after the Oct. 7 attacks on Israel to reopen the Rafah gate -- the sole border crossing between Gaza and Egypt -- in order to move aid into the area and allow foreign nationals to leave.While a limited number of trucks carrying food, water and medicine were able to enter Gaza for the first time on Saturday, so far none of the foreign nationals has been allowed to leave.Miller explained that "a number of civilians, some American citizens" flocked to the Gaza side of the Rafah crossing when it was first opened, but none were able to leave because Hamas "was there blocking anyone from coming through the gate from the Gaza side out to the Egyptian side."According to U.S. officials, the Egyptian government has also been hesitant to allow civilians to exit Gaza through the Rafah gate because of the country's intense concern over security threats posed by terrorist activities on the Sinai Peninsula.Egyptian officials are also likely eager to avoid the optics of thousands of people pouring across the border from Gaza -- wary the country might appear complicit in what its president and other Middle Eastern leaders have said would be an "ethnic cleansing" of Gaza.While securing Egypt's cooperation in eventually facilitating the departure of American citizens would be a diplomatic achievement for the administration, it does not yet appear that Cairo has signaled it will extend the same opportunity to the parents, children, siblings, and partners of U.S. nationals in Gaza.Miller said it was still the administration's goal that the immediate family members of American citizens crossing through the Rafah gate would be allowed to depart as well, but that it was "an ongoing conversation" with Egypt.With a potential Israeli ground incursion looming, the already dire circumstances facing Americans and their loved ones inside Gaza may soon get even worse.Abood Okal, a 36-year-old American, has been stranded in Gaza with his wife and 1-year-old son since the beginning of the Israel-Hamas war, told his lawyer, Sammy Nabulsi, that the family has been huddled in a home with 40 other people, sleeping on the floor, sharing meager amounts of food, and that for an entire day, they had been forced to drink salt water to survive.Nabulsi said in an interview with ABC News Live on Monday that Okal's family had been instructed by the State Department to go to the Rafah crossing four different times, but on each occasion no one had been allowed to pass through the gate."I think the holdup is the United States isn't focused on this effort at all," said Nabulsi. "It's unacceptable to me. It should be unacceptable to every single American citizen is this entire country."Although the State Department asserts that Hamas is preventing them from fleeing to safety, Miller said Americans stranded in Gaza are "in a different situation" from the around 220 individuals the Israeli Defense Forces believes are still being held hostage by the group."I am not at all trying to minimize the situation," Miller said, acknowledging Americans like Okal and his family are facing "deplorable" circumstances and vowing that U.S. officials are "working intensively' to get them out.The administration has not provided any number or estimate of how many of the 500 to 600 Americans thought to be trapped in Gaza have reached out to the State Department for help."We have a list of Americans who are registered with us, and when we have any information about the possibility of transiting outside of Gaza, we're providing it to all of them," Miller said.。后排左起：弟弟Valentin Jr和表妹。（图：吕思娴）在外人眼中礼貌谦卑、平易近人、懂多种语言，言行举止大方得体，一点都不像是只有17岁的我国奥运铜牌得主墨士廉，在家人眼中是个怎样的孩子？他的母亲又为何坚持在家里讲华语？我国水翼风筝板好手墨士廉（Maximilian Maeder）于13日从巴黎奥运会回国后，就马不停蹄地参与庆祝活动和签名会，望穿秋水的外公外婆想要好好地跟外孙墨士廉吃顿饭都不容易。《8视界新闻网》于星期六（24日）和墨士廉一家进行家庭专访时，外婆陈亚妹就笑着透露，自墨士廉回国后，截至星期六那天，她只见过外孙墨士廉三次，而且外孙每次都是“一下子就不见了。”当天早上，墨士廉一走进大门，外公外婆都非常兴奋，眼睛为之一亮。

外公外婆：好品格是最重要的

对于两位老人家而言，不论子女选择做什么事情，品格始终是最重要。陈亚妹就告诉记者，自己一向很民主，不会干涉子孙，只要他们不做犯法的事就行了。在访谈的过程中，墨士廉的外公丁来安也不断提到品德培养的重要性。这也就是为什么他给外孙取了“墨士廉”这个名字。

二 | 外公丁来安说，墨士廉这个华文名字除了根据他的英文名字Maximilian寻找灵感外，还经过深思熟虑后才诞生的。

三 | 丁来安解释：“中国有一个哲学家叫做墨子，我就把他取为‘墨’。

四 | ‘士’（代表的）就是学者，就是有学问的人。‘廉’应该是品德，（代表）廉洁。所以我想这个名字给他以后，他应该会向这方面去发展。”墨士廉（中）小时候与两位弟弟 Karl（左）和 Valentin Jr. 合照。（图：Valentin Maeder）不要问国家可以为你做什么，而要问你自己能够为国家做什么。

美国已故前总统肯尼迪

说起墨士廉，丁来安满是骄傲，对外孙赞不绝口。他表示，墨士廉虽然是没有受过传统的教育，但是非常能干，懂得多种语言，而且谦虚、亲民。丁来安说：“美国已故前总统肯尼迪曾经说过：‘不要问国家能为你做什么，要问你自己能够为国家做什么。’现在我们新加坡的墨士廉实现了他这个名言。”获得两届水翼风筝板世界冠军的墨士廉，于本月9日国庆日那天在巴黎奥运会上，摘下男子水翼风筝板铜牌，为我国赢得64年来第六面奥运奖牌，也是2024年巴黎奥运我国代表队赢得的唯一奖牌。

五 | 墨士廉也成为新加坡历史上最年轻的奥运奖牌得主。

六 | 墨士廉为我国夺下一面奥运铜牌。（图：路透社）

母亲：儿子“怕输”

当记者问他们会如何形容墨士廉时，外公外婆都异口同声地说墨士廉是个有才华的孩子。最小的弟弟九岁的Valentin Jr. 就说，墨士廉是个奇迹，并表示他是一名好哥哥。

七 | 母亲丁慧卿直言不讳表示，儿子“怕输”，不喜欢做第二名。至于父亲Valentin Maeder，就以福建话“Swee”（“美”的意思）来形容儿子做事的态度。墨士廉说，自己是为了取得进步而学习，而不是为了达到某个标准或成绩而学习，这样就会学得很开心。（图：Valentin Maeder）

让孩子探索各种运动寻找自己的兴趣

墨士廉从小就接触各种运动。

八 | 他的母亲丁慧卿表示，墨士廉尝试过游泳、乒乓、骑脚踏车、滑雪等各种运动，为的只是要让他接触多一些运动，有多一些选择，不受局限。“因为你如果没有选择的话，你只是做一样东西，你不知道你喜不喜欢别的东西。

九 | ”被问及自己为何对水翼风筝板情有独钟时，墨士廉也难以解释为何那么喜爱这项运动。“我一踏上水翼板的那一刻，我就知道这是我最喜欢做的运动。”他补充，自己接触过那么多种运动，只有在水面上滑行会让他有种说不出的特别感。墨士廉的父母透露，孩子如果对一件事感兴趣的话，你自然而然就会知道的。“他做别的运动的时候，他没有要求说要再做多一次。可是这个水翼风筝板呢，他自动说‘我要去做’，那你就知道孩子有兴趣了。孩子没有兴趣的东西他不会再提，他有兴趣他就会很积极。”墨士廉六岁开始学习水翼风筝板。（图：Valentin Maeder）

学习是为了进步非要达到某个成绩

墨士廉的父亲是瑞士人，母亲是新加坡人，墨士廉懂多种语言。他在家中会用瑞士德语与父亲沟通，和母亲则是以华语沟通，英语是自学的。母亲丁慧卿说，为了能够和外公外婆交流、沟通，孩子们必须要懂得讲华语。“我绝对要他跟我的爸爸妈妈沟通。

十 | 如果你要跟他们沟通，你必须要用他们的语言。因为我们经常来新加坡，然后来了新加坡，我们是一个华人家庭，他如果连那个语言都不会，他听不懂，他哪里有兴趣去参加你的活动？我爸爸常说家庭要团结，要在一起。那你连语言都不懂，你要跟他怎么团结在一起呢？”墨士廉坦言，学习语言并不是一件容易的事，你需要下很多功夫。

十一 | 不过，重点在于，你要在没有压力的情况下学习。他解释，自己是为了取得进步而学习，而不是为了达到某个标准或成绩而学习，这样就会学得很开心。丁慧卿补充：“你学（华语）的目标不是为了成绩，而是为了进步。当你很开心地学一样东西的时候，你就会更积极地去学。

十二 | 因为是你自己要进步。”

曾带孩子到少林寺

丁慧卿育儿的方式有些奇特，也非常用心。陈亚妹就透露，丁慧卿曾经带孩子们到中国河南的少林寺住几个星期。丁慧卿曾经带孩子们到中国河南的少林寺住几个星期。（图：Valentin Maeder）丁慧卿解释，除了让他们以华语跟他人沟通，加强语文能力之外，带他们到少林寺的目的也是为了让他们强身健体，以及了解自己有多幸福。

十三 |

庆幸能够在家自学

墨士廉和两个弟弟都是在家自学（homeschool）的，没有接受传统的教育。这让他可以更容易地进行训练，参加比赛等。

那他们究竟是如何自学的呢？

Valentin Maeder解释，所谓的“在家自学”不一定代表是待在家中学习，可以在他们旅游的时候教他们不同的事物。丁慧卿则表示：“我们没有一个课程，他们去到哪里就学什么。去到什么地方就学有关当地的地理、历史、人物。什么都可以学的嘛。”丁慧卿认为，比起内容，更重要的是教孩子如何思考。

十四 | “思考的方式比你的内容还要重要。

十五 | 如果你教他那个思考方式，内容只不过是一个过程而已。”墨士廉和两个弟弟都是在家自学。母亲丁慧卿表示：“我们没有一个课程。去到什么地方就学有关当地的地理、历史、人物。（图：Valentin Maeder）被问及会否觉得自己没有上传统学校而错过了些什么，比如跟其他同龄青少年一起上学，在校园里交朋友等，他回答的成熟度，再次令人觉得超乎他的实际年龄。墨士廉表示，自己非常庆幸能够在家自学，而且自己看到的并不是自己没有体验过什么，而是自己得到了什么样的体验。他解释，自己看到的是自己能够以这样的方式，在学习的同时也有机会训练和参加比赛，这是他更想要的旅程。他表示，自己接下来会继续训练，继续参加比赛，继续学习，尽可能不断地自我突破。